Thursday, October 31, 2013

U-Hauled and proud.

Let's talk about U-Hauling. 

U-Hauling refers to extreme emotional intimacy, monogamy, and commitment that manifest in some stereotypical lesbian relationships after the couple has only known each other for a short time.

I have officially U-Hauled with HUC.

After only about a month or two (I knew a lot about her from the internet but we met in person once or twice), I packed up my belongings and moved across the Atlantic Ocean to be with her.

I've been running on "U-Haul" Standard Time ever since. My sense of time is completely distorted; these four months feel like an entire year has passed. I am a completely different person now than I was one month ago, let alone four. How has so much changed so quickly? How have my core values, opinions, and goals been shaped this dramatically in less than a year? Has it really only been four months?

U-Hauling is typically used in a derogatory manner, but I'm reclaiming it and reframing it. 

On our first date, HUC asked me about my upbringing, what my personal and professional goals are, and where I want to be in five years.

On our second date, HUC delved into my spiritual self -- my conception of G-d, my connection to prayer, and my struggle reconciling my religion with my sexuality.

On our third date, HUC grilled me about my knowledge, my qualifications, and my potential to grow.

On our fourth date, HUC told me where I would be in five years: living with her in New York City, and spending the rest of my life with her.

I chose El Al over U-Haul, but the phenomenon is the same. It might sound crazy, but this is the most beautiful relationship I've ever been in.

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